Length dating before marriage based age
“It turns out that cohabitation doesn’t cause divorce and probably never did,” says Kuperberg.
“What leads to divorce is when people move in with someone – with or without a marriage license – before they have the maturity and experience to choose compatible partners and to conduct themselves in ways that can sustain a long-term relationship.” So what’s the magic age?
We only got married young (or, 'young' I suppose) due to a number of favourable factors – not least the fact that we'd been a couple long enough to have had a few years living together to see if we drove each other mad. It may be the fact that most people now co-habit before marriage which plays an important role in the increasing average age at marriage and – happily – a divorce rate which is now a fifth lower than it was in 2002.
The number of marriages failing in their first 10 years is now as low as it's been since the mid-1980s.
But a spate of new studies looking at cohabitation, as it’s called, are starting to refine those results.
My mother, as was about par for the course in 1975, got married at the age of 21. As such, I'd vowed as a young man that I would wait until I was at least 35 before deigning to stroll down the aisle with my beloved.
Alas, there's that old John Lennon adage about life and other plans. Although the average age at (first) marriage for men in England and Wales is just over 32, the most common age-group by frequency to get married is 25-29 for both men and women.
As I looked at the age my parents married and wondered why on Earth anyone would marry so young, so it's likely that my own kids will wonder what on Earth I was playing at getting married at 27. I was 27 when he proposed, while simultaneously changing our daughter's nappy as I swept the floor in a rented apartment in Brooklyn on a trip to visit friends.
It was marginally more romantic than it sounds, though it needn't have been.